Luna's Landing

Another day, another lesson learned


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Blonds have more fun??

Well thats what they say…

I will call this an experiment. I decided to go blond!!

I have been brunette my whole life, and so this was a leap for me!!!

However, let me tell you this horror story of how I got to this color….

I have been going to the same hair stylist for about 2 and a half years. I love her. When I take her a picture, she nails it. When I just need a trim, she cuts it the same as it was before. I never have to worry about a bad hair cut when I go to her!!

I figured I would pay the money to let her dye my hair as well, as I wanted it to be done right.

When I got to the salon and told her what I wanted, she was excited! She knows that I like to change up my style from time to time, so she saw this coming.

She started dying my hair with lightener… now, I don’t know enough about hair products to know the difference between lightener and bleach, but there is one. I was all excited, posted pictures on facebook of me sitting in the processor..

Next we washed my hair, put some toner in there, threw a towel on my head, and walked to the chair.

When she took the towel off of my hair, IT WAS ORANGE!!!!

Im talking Oompa loompa orange….

I was shocked!!! I sat and stared without talking to my stylist as she started trimming the back… I was trying to figure out what to do now…

Then she decided she was going to highlight some areas to break up the orange…

This did nothing…

By the way, at this point I had been at the salon for 3 hours…

Thankfully, my stylists next appointment called and canceled so she could continue damage control on my hair.

She bleached all of my hair… finally… why didn’t this happen in the first place??

My hair came out much better… as you see in the picture, but there are still some orange tinted streaks going on…

Here is the kicker…

I am all done and ready to go (after 5 and a half hours!!!), and I go to pay and the lady at the counter asks me for double the cost of coloring hair….

WHY? Because she had to use double the hair die…

Really?? I had to pay for my stylists mess up…

Well, because I do not want to loose my relationship with the only person I trust to cut my hair, I payed and left….

But lets find the positives here, I love my hair, and now we know that when you have nearly black hair to begin with, go with bleach… not lightener.

Here is a picture with my brown hair before, and my new blond hair.. which do you like better??

ImagePhoto on 6-19-13 at 2.14 AM


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Being an adult about big kid choices….

I have been trying to figure things out…

Do I go for my PhD? If so, what schools? Do I take a year off? If so, should I adjunct and try to find a consulting job? Can you consult with just your masters? Would I find a consulting job? Why is everything so scary and big? Does my family move away or stay here? blah blah blah….

I have been talking to all my friends and family, trying to see what their reactions and advice is…

I have been doing a lot of soul searching to find what I really want…

And then it hit me…

I want to be with my family. More than money, more than a home, more than a fancy Doctor title, I want to be with my kids and husband.

Today I have decided that worrying and panicking about what will happen next is doing nothing for me and my biggest dream, a happy, healthy home.

So tomorrow I am going to start emailing my contacts, asking them questions, lots of questions.

I know a professor who owns a consulting firm, I will bug him.

I know people who adjunct, I will bug them.

I am going to look up how to be certified to do divorce mediation.

I already know how the PhD programs work, but I do not know how job hunting works.

I am going to be logical. I am going to do my research, search for wise advice, and I am going to make my decision then.

There is nothing more I can do at this point in time.

I also need to remind myself over and over… and over, that if I choose to stop with my masters that it is not because I am giving up or because I am a failure. Most people never make it this far, especially at my age!! If I choose to stop my education, or take a break, It was simply a better choice. Also, I can ALWAYS go back!!

So tomorrow I begin my logical, calm, search to make the best decision for myself and my family….

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Blondie!!

P.S…. I bleached my hair blonde…. in case you were waiting to know my decision on that!!


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A different kind of post…

This post is different for me, but it seems like a good time to post it. 

I recently had to have a talk with a good friend about the way she has been acting lately. This friend has been my best friend since grade school, and I see her more as a sister than friend. She is fun, creative, caring, and the most trustworthy person I know. She understands me like no one else, and is always by my side. 

Lately she has not been herself. She is angry, cranky, and pretty naggy. Her husband, my husband, and myself have been having to watch what we say around her in order to not upset her. This is not like her. 

I could see her giving up. She was angry with life,  bitter about how things are turning out. 

I’ve seen this before…… In myself. 

The thing is, sometimes things are hard. Not everything turns out like we expect it to. Life throws us lemons, so to speak. The light at the end of the tunnel sometimes turns off. 

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Lumos

In Harry Potter, Dumbledore says “Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.” Being a big Harry Potter fan, I had always known this quote, but it took a dark time for me to understand what this really means. 

When times are hard, when we feel like we have nothing more to live for, when we give up, we are surrounded by darkness. We forget that there is supposed to be a light at the end of said tunnel. 

We have to turn the light on ourselves. 

Sometimes this takes a friend. In my friends case, she was sitting in the dark, giving up. She felt that she made too many mistakes, she was in over her head, and that she was going to be stuck where she was for the rest of her life, equating in life being miserable. 

This misery makes us angry, bitter, and sad….. very sad. 

How do we turn on the light??? 

I dont know if I have the answer, but I do have thoughts based on my own experience. 

Find something that you want to work toward. This could be going back to school, working hard to straighten out your finances, anything. Find something that is hard, something that challenges you, something that makes you work for it. The harder you work, the more accomplished you feel at the end. 

Do something to define yourself. Be different, even from your friends. Join roller derby, yoga, start writing, exercising, etc. 

Doing these things makes a light. If you continue the misery you are in, if you give up, you will sit in the dark forever. Change something, work toward something, find something to make you unique. This creates something for you to look forward to (the light). 

So as cheesy as it may seem, remember that “happiness CAN be found, even in the darkest of times, if only one remember to turn on the light” -Dumbledore


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Anxiety, Excitement, Exhausted, Motivated

I have been questioning what to do next.

Lots and lots of questioning…

Right now I am in the summer semester between my first and second year of my masters program. I need to start applying to PhD programs, and begin writing my thesis.

All of a sudden I don’t know what I want to do anymore. I do know I want to finish my masters, there is no doubt about that.

I have two kids and a husband waiting for me to finish school. I feel like we are all on pause until I am done.

We want a house, a life, less stress, and lots of love!!! Do I want to wait just one more year, or do I want to wait 5 more years?

Then again, how will I ever buy a home??? I live in an area that shacks costs 150,000. The taxes are outrageous, and I have 40,000 is student loans.

PhD= more student loans, even with an assistantship, and no PhD= less pay…

WHY ARE THERE NO EASY ANSWERS???

Oh boy….

I really want to be done, I also really want to earn my PhD…..

I could take a year off and work and think about it… but then if I do go back, I will hate myself for being a year behind.

The only thing I can really do with my masters is adjunct, and if I am really super lucky, I can do some communication consulting… not many options..

I will keep updates on decisions I make, but for now, your guess is as good as mine….

As far as the motivated part in the title… I am motivated… motivated to rock the next year of school so I can do whatever it is I will be doing next 🙂

Trying to always remember the bright side


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Blonde or Brunette??

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Took this photo as I wrote this post!!

Hello!!

So today is about my hair, hence the picture!! This is me right now… like right this second!!

My hair is short, dark, and in need of a trim!!

I used to have long hair, that I loved at the time, but one day I decided I was going short, and I am in LOVE with my short hair.

Everyone told me not to get my hair cut, and now every one tells me not to grow it back out!!

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Kandee Johnson

Lately I have been seeing a lot of celebrities dying their short hair blonde! Anne Hathaway, and Kandee Johnson (celebrity in my book!).

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Anne Hathaway (photo from Huffington post)

Blond hair does a lot of things for you. First, it is edgy. Short + Blonde = super edgy.. right?? I think so! Second, it makes short hair more feminine.

Short hair is super cute, if you know what you are doing. Common myth is that short hair is quicker and easier than short hair.. this is so wrong. You have to style your hair each day.

Dark short hair looks boyish if all you do is blow dry it. Each day I look for extra jewelry, a cute scarf, or a hair piece (bandana or bow) to girly up my style.

Blonde haire girlys up your style on its own!!!

So I am debating…

I love my hair now, but I may love it more blonde…

I was scared to cut it short, but now I will never go back…

Maybe the same will happen with blonde…

And whats the worst that can happen, I can always die it back right?? Anne Hathaway died hers back brunette after just 3 weeks….

What do you think.. yes? no?


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Should do list…. I need to prioritize…

Jafar writing a to do list!!

Jafar writing a to do list!!

Right now, as my kids wrestle my husband to the ground, I should be writing a post for class.. I will do that as soon as I am done blogging 🙂

I have mentioned multiple times that I am crazy busy and do a lot. So today I thought I would share my to do list… I like to call them my should do lists…

To do…

Write my class post

Order a book off amazon for my qualitative methods class

Do some picking up around the house

Start an assignment that is due the first day of my qual. class

Begin my thesis literature review (I REALLY need to do this one)

Start looking back over lecture notes and syllabi for next semester

Go grocery shopping

Go to forever 21

Go to Macy’s

Finalize a literature review for my Romantic Relationships class

Find my APA style book

wash my car….

Get my hair cut

Get my eyebrows waxed

Read 6 chapters for my qual class

Do some MORE laundry… it never ends!!!

Go to the bank

Get Chandler new tennis shoes

Get a pedicure (I may take Lyla for her first time!!)

Make a vet appointment for Neville (our fur baby)

And more that I am sure I am missing….

During all these to do things I also play and take my kids fun places (I think we will be going to the science center tomorrow!), cook meals, and other mommy duties!!

My friend just called me… got to go…

whats on your to do list???

what do you always put off??


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Beauty is for superficial people…

Makeup, manicures, pedicures, fancy shmancy clothing.. all for fake superficial people.. right????

No, not really.

Listen, I love to just throw on sweats for the day and run out of the house with no makeup as much as the next grad student. Sometimes comfort really is a priority. I can not, and I will not sit in the library for 12 hours researching and writing like a mad man if my clothes and shoes are uncomfortable.

But here is the thing….

Humans like beauty. Does this seem superficial.. maybe.

In all societies and cultures we have different beliefs on what beauty is. However, one thing remains constant; beauty is related to the perceptions of intelligence, wealth, power, respect, and much more. When we see a well dressed man we believe he has worked hard in his life, he has a good job, and he is smart. Same with a woman. She is put together, intelligent, and has a good life.

This is what we think when we see beautiful people.

Did you know that teachers, instructors, and professors get higher student evaluations when they are perceived as good looking. Multiple studies have been done to show that appearance, more than any other attribution correlates with evaluations. Some studies have even gone as far to say that students listen, and possibly even learn more from good looking instructors.

Now, I know I can teach my students without looking like barbie, because trust me I don’t.

However, when teaching, I try a little harder. I am NOT trying to look sexy.. not sure if I am capable of that. I am trying to look professional.

I like to do this when buying a new car or any large purchase as well. Try it, you will find you are treated much better and often “win” more when you look more put together.

As I am in my 20s, I am just now really figuring out my style. I like layers, and bracelets, flats (even though I am short), earrings, scarfs, necklaces, and occasionally a cute hat. When I did costuming and makeup in my undergrad it was all for theater… and therefore I SUCK at every day makeup.

Then I found Kandee Johnson!!! I love this girl! Watch her, you will be in love as well. She does  everyday makeup as well as costume makeup. She shows you how to do high end and drug store brands of makeup (we all know this grad student uses the drug store brands). 

Anyways, now that I have found my own style, and understand how to do my makeup, I feel like superwoman. My confidence has boosted, heck, I think I walk a little taller. I have also noticed more respect from others.

Beauty is on the inside. But sometimes your inside shines more when you feel better on the outside.